Columbus GA Divorce Lawyer - Fort Benning Attorney Divorce Overview

Divorce in Georgia - Columbus GA Divorce Lawyer - Fort Benning Attorney

Our family law attorneys provide representation with compassion and expertise. We understand the struggles and pain that people encounter when dealing with Family law issues. We believe that you should be treated with courtesy and respect; you should be informed at all stages of your representation and should participate in the decision making process at all times.

We work in the Augusta Georgia, Evans Georgia areas and are familiar with the local judges and the local court system. Whether you are going through a contested divorce, uncontested divorce, child support modification, child custody dispute, child visitation modification, military divorce, or adoption, our local Augusta Georgia lawyers will support you at every step of the way.


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Divorce in Georgia - Columbus GA Divorce Lawyer - Fort Benning Attorney

What are the grounds for divorce in Georgia?

In Georgia there are 13 grounds for divorce. One ground is "irretrievably broken" (sometimes referred to as the "no-fault" ground). The other 12 grounds for divorce in Georgia are "fault" grounds.

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We specialize in military related family law issues. We are experienced in dealing with legal issues that arise during military service. All members of our firm have spent years either on Active Duty as JAG lawyers or as Active Duty military dependants. Our lawyers have handled hundreds of military related divorces, GA & SC criminal cases involving service members and their dependants, court martials cases, and a variety of other family law issues such as custody issues, child support, adoptions, service of process, and annulments. 

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Columbus GA Divorce Lawyer - Fort Benning Attorney Divorce Overview

Divorce in Georgia - Columbus GA Divorce Lawyer - Fort Benning Attorney

The increase in divorce has its effect, directly or indirectly, on virtually every family in the country. The following information is designed to summarize briefly Georgia's divorce laws.

Marriage is a civil contract which the state has an interest in preserving. Accordingly, the marriage relationship can be dissolved only as provided by law, by either a divorce or an annulment. It also may be altered by a decree of separation granted by our courts. In any case, there must be a proceeding in the Superior Court of the county in which the person seeking the divorce, separation decree or annulment must prove "grounds" or valid reasons prescribed by law.

What are the grounds for divorce in Georgia?

In Georgia there are 13 grounds for divorce. One ground is "irretrievably broken" (sometimes referred to as the "no-fault" ground). The other 12 grounds for divorce in Georgia are "fault" grounds.

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Augusta GA Divorce Attorney - Divorce demand at knifepoint

Augusta GA Divorce Attorney - Divorce demand at knifepoint

by Sun Sentinel

A Tamarac woman was charged with attempted murder after authorities say she held a knife to her husband's throat and demanded he sign divorce papers and the deed to their house.

Tamara Strulovici, 51, approached her husband from behind in their home in the 2700 block of Northwest 54th Street and put a steak knife to his neck Monday night, the Broward Sheriff's Office said.

Strulovici began slashing fingers on his left hand, according to the Sheriff's Office.

Bail was set at $75,000 for Strulovici, who also is charged with aggravated battery with a deadly weapon.





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Columbus GA Divorce Lawyer - Other states’ gay divorce can affect us

Other states’ gay divorce can affect us

By Randall M. Kessler

Tuesday, May 12, 2009

States legalizing same-sex marriage are remaking laws governing the union of two people. But as a family law attorney with
20 years of experience, I’m seeing a tangled web of legal problems dealing with a much more difficult issue: same-sex divorce.

Same-sex marriage is now authorized in a handful of states. But what happens in those states when those couples break up? Why should it matter in the states such as Georgia that have not recognized same-sex marriage?

Because we have a system of justice that allows each of our United States to recognize and enforce court orders of sister states, and this, of course, includes court orders of divorce.

Opponents of same-sex marriage sought a constitutional amendment to disallow same-sex marriage throughout the country since once it happens in one state, other states would surely follow. Well, now Iowa’s Supreme Court has allowed it, Vermont’s Legislature has approved it and other states are following suit.

A same-sex marriage that is legal in one state can be dissolved by divorce in that state. But when a gay couple divorces and then moves to a state where same-sex marriage is not legal, new challenges arise.

For instance, if one party was awarded a house that happens to be in Georgia would that divorce order be enforced in Georgia? If so, wouldn’t Georgia then be recognizing, at least by implication, same-sex marriage?

If not, aren’t we sending a message to Vermont or whichever state granted the divorce that we would not enforce their orders? And could this mean that Vermont might retaliate and not enforce orders of our state?

What happens if a gay couple marries, adopts a child and then divorces, all in a state that recognizes same-sex marriage, but then they move to Georgia? If the custodial parent seeks to enforce a child support award against the other parent, what does the court do?

If it enforces it, then hasn’t the court, and thus the state, recognized same-sex marriage, by enforcing the terms of the same-sex divorce? If it does not enforce the order, aren’t we then harming the most innocent victims, the children who need the support?

The same is true with child custody and visitation orders. If Georgia or any other state refuses to enforce a same-sex divorce then parents will have no way to ensure they can visit with the child if the custodial parent moves to Georgia.

There are many other such examples. If a gay divorcee applies for a job or credit in Georgia, do they put on the application that they are divorced, separated or single? Can the alimony or child support they receive from their same-sex divorce be counted as income when applying for a loan or a mortgage?

I am staying out of the political debate, but the idea of allowing citizens to utilize government for things like divorce helps give answers to those who would otherwise have to live with uncertainty.

Gay or not, people who love each other, invest together and have children together can benefit from the ability to have the court resolve their differences.

The purpose of the court system with respect to divorce is to resolve disputes and to guide parties in their future dealings when they cannot otherwise agree. Why should this logic only apply to heterosexuals?

As a family law attorney, I anticipate these issues will be before Georgia courts and perhaps the Georgia Legislature very soon. I look forward to seeing how we choose to resolve them.

Randall M. Kessler is with KSS Family Law and editor of the Family Law Review for the Georgia Bar.

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Augusta GA Divorce Lawyer - Married With Bankruptcy

Augusta GA Divorce Lawyer - Married With Bankruptcy

By ANDREW J. CHERLIN

IN times of economic crisis, Americans turn to their families for support. If the Great Depression is any guide, we may see a drop in our sky-high divorce rate. But this won’t necessarily represent an increase in happy marriages, nor is the trend likely to last. In the long run, the Depression weakened American families, and the current crisis will probably do the same.

We tend to think of the Depression as a time when families pulled together to survive huge job losses. The divorce rate, which had been rising slowly since the Civil War, suddenly dropped in 1930, the year after the Depression began. By 1932, when nearly one-quarter of the work force was unemployed, it had declined by around 25 percent from 1929. But this does not mean that people were suddenly happier with their marriages. Rather, with incomes plummeting and insecure jobs, unhappy couples often couldn’t afford to divorce. They feared that neither spouse would be able to manage alone.

Today, given the job losses of the past year, fewer unhappy couples will risk starting separate households. Furthermore, the housing market meltdown will make it more difficult for them to finance their separations by selling their homes.

After financial disasters (and natural ones as well) family members also tend to do whatever they can to help each other and their communities. In a 1940 book, “The Unemployed Man and His Family,” the sociologist Mirra Komarovsky described a family in which the husband initially reacted to losing his job “with tireless search for work.” He was always active, looking for odd jobs or washing windows for neighbors. Another unemployed man initially enjoyed spending more time with his young children. These men’s spirits were up, and their wives were supportive.

The problem is that such an impulse is hard to sustain. The men Komarovsky studied eventually grew discouraged, their efforts faltered, and their relationships with their wives and teenage children often deteriorated. Across the country, many similar families were unable to maintain the initial boost in morale. For some, the hardships of life without steady work eventually overwhelmed their attempts to keep their families together. The divorce rate began to rise again in 1934 when employment picked up, providing some unhappy couples with the income they needed to separate. The rate rose during the rest of the decade as the recovery took hold.

Millions of American families may now be in the initial stage of their responses to the current crisis, working together and supporting one another through the early months of unemployment. During the Depression this stage seemed to last a year at most. Today, it might last longer. Wives now share with their husbands the burden of earning money, and the government provides more assistance.

But history suggests that this response will be temporary. By 1940 the divorce rate was higher than before the Depression, as if a pent-up demand was finally being satisfied. The Depression destroyed the inner life of many married couples, but it was years before they could afford to file for divorce.

Today’s economic slump could well generate a similar backlog of couples whose relationships have been irreparably ruined. So it is only when the economy is healthy again that we will begin to see just how many fractured families have been created.






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Augusta GA Divorce Lawyer - Dirty Laundry Aired: The Fight Over Revealing Divorce Details

Augusta GA Divorce Lawyer - Dirty Laundry Aired: The Fight Over Revealing Divorce Details

By DIONNE SEARCEY

Disclosures during divorce proceedings often elicit disgust over the revelation of intimate details -- or delight over the revelation of intimate details.

A string of recent divorce cases involving high-profile figures has laid bare that divide, in sometimes excruciatingly personal terms. Defenders of disclosure say revelations that come out of divorce cases can provide insight into the character and habits of elected officials and others who are accountable to the public, such as executives of public companies.

Despite the potential for tawdriness and spousal retaliation, there are often compelling reasons for openness, proponents of disclosure say.


A judge ruled that details of Nevada Gov. Jim Gibbons's divorce case could be made public.

"The status should be that the records are open," said David Hudson, a First Amendment scholar at the nonpartisan First Amendment Center. "The burden of proof should be placed on those who are trying to deny the disclosure of information."

Advocates for privacy contend that revealing the back-and-forth of divorce battles feeds the public's thirst for gossip but little else, at the risk of damaging reputations.

In Nevada, divorce papers recently unsealed by a Reno judge led to revelations that Gov. Jim Gibbons has been accused in divorce filings of carrying on two affairs, one with a former Playboy model and another with a state employee while he was in office.

An attorney for the governor says he has denied that he had the affairs. Nonetheless, advocates for good government say voters should know about the allegations because Mr. Gibbons intends to run for a second term.

Divorce hearings are largely presumed to be open to the public. Case records, however, are often considered private. But the laws vary widely from state to state. In all states, courts heavily weigh the interests of children when determining whether to seal any part of a divorce case. And in some states, including California, parties are allowed to redact information if they show a compelling reason, such as financial information that could allow identity theft.

But privacy advocates say most types of personal information, especially details that could hurt any children caught up in a divorce, should stay out of the public eye.

"While I understand the First Amendment and that the public has the right to know some things, [often] the public's interest in these cases is more prurient than anything else," said Gary Nickelson, president of the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers. "They just want to know all the dirt so they can talk about it."

A high-profile split in Connecticut involving the head of a large public company illustrates how open proceedings can serve shareholder interests, proponents of disclosure say. The wife of United Technologies Corp. Chairman George David says she deserved more than the roughly $43 million set out in the couple's post-nuptial agreement, in part, because she essentially helped run the company. Lawyers for Marie Douglas-David, a former investment banker, hope to highlight financial conversations the couple had as proof.

To that end, an attorney for Ms. Douglas-David suggested at a recent hearing that the couple discussed a merger of United Technologies with 3M Co. The proposed deal, which never happened, hadn't been disclosed prior to the divorce proceedings.

United Technologies said the company doesn't comment on rumor or speculation; 3M declined to comment on the matter. Mr. David denies the conversation occurred, according to his attorney.

Ms. Douglas-David's attorneys say she has more merger information that she will reveal in open court -- a tactic that could compel her husband to settle to avoid rattling shareholders. The next hearing in the case is scheduled for July.

Anne C. Dranginis, an attorney for Mr. David, called any financial talks her client had with his wife "incidental conversations" that had no impact on the company. Robert Stephan Cohen, an attorney for Ms. Douglas-David, counters: "The way to get to the unfiltered truth is through a public trial."

Judges and legislatures at times see reasons why divorce information is in the public interest. In 2004, when Barack Obama was running against Jack Ryan for a U.S. Senate seat in Illinois, a lawsuit from the Chicago Tribune unsealed Mr. Ryan's divorce records in a custody battle that accused him of taking his wife to sex clubs and of trying to persuade her to perform sex acts for strangers. Mr. Ryan couldn't be reached for comment Wednesday. He issued denials during the 2004 campaign, but his poll numbers plummeted and he dropped out of the race.

Gov. Gibbons's divorce case is playing out in Nevada, where divorce records are for the most part presumed private. But in a hearing on the case, a district judge ruled that a law allowing divorcing parties to close hearings and seal case records is unconstitutional. Since then, allegations in the divorce have been reported in local and national media. Says Gary Silverman, a lawyer for Gov. Gibbons: "Only somebody who is really...sick would care about what's going on in somebody else's divorce."

Cal Dunlap, a lawyer for the governor's wife, Dawn Gibbons, argues that divorces offer the public the opportunity to know what a public official is really like. "You find out what's really going on with people and their character," Mr. Dunlap said.






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Augusta GA Divorce Attorney - Gay Divorce Still Legal in California

Augusta GA Divorce Attorney - Gay Divorce Still Legal in California

By Robert Mackey

Gay and lesbian couples who took advantage of California’s brief fling with gay marriage last year to tie the knot, but now can’t stand the sight of one another, will be relieved to hear that gay divorce remains an option.

Frederick Hertz, a lawyer in Oakland, Calif., who specializes in same-sex family law, told The Lede that since California’s Supreme Court ruled on Tuesday that same-sex marriages that took place in 2008, before voters approved a ban in November, will remain “both valid and recognized,” that means “all the rules of marriage apply, including divorce.” That said, the state’s new law explicitly outlawing same-sex-marriage does create something of a gray area for couples who live in California, but were married in another state, or nation, and now want to get a divorce. As Mr. Hertz explains, the problem for unhappily married same-sex couples living in a state that bans same-sex marriage, is that “getting a divorce requires a recognition of the marriage.”

In an article explaining how the legal patchwork of state laws makes it nearly impossible for some same-sex couples to get divorced, the Los Angeles Times reported that a lesbian couple from Rhode Island who got married in Massachusetts were later denied a divorce in their home state, since the courts there can not recognize their marriage.

The L.A. Times noted that some couples have apparently been driven to trickery in an effort to get divorced in states that won’t let them get married:

In Oklahoma, a judge unwittingly granted a divorce to two gay women who had married in Canada. The women had filed using just their first initials and last names. On discovering that both members of the couple were women, the judge revoked the divorce, on grounds that they had never been legally married.

In a post last month for the Daily Beast, Tim Murphy wrote that same-sex divorce is still relatively rare, but campaigners in favor of same-sex marriage want the right to untie the knot as well:

A recent UCLA study of same-sex couples in states that offer civil unions or legal domestic partnerships showed that these couples broke their legal bonds at about the same rate as straight couples: 2 percent per year. But because it’s only been a few years that gays have had legal unions at all, this amounts to relatively few dissolutions. Also, because most gay couples who’ve married thus far had already been together for many years, the gay divorce rate is still low, says Evan Wolfson, founder of the national gay-nups lobby Freedom to Marry. “I expect that, over time, gay people will probably have the same rate of [marriage] failure as non-gay people,” says Wolfson. “And that’s part of the point. People should be treated equally.”

Jo Ann Citron, a divorce lawyer in Boston, told the L.A. Times that, at least in terms of the law, “the single most important benefit of marriage is divorce.” As. Ms. Citron noted divorce is “a predictable process by which property is divided, debt is apportioned and custodial arrangements are made for children.”

Frederick Hertz, who has a well-timed book on the legal intricacies of same-sex marriage and other kinds of legal partnership coming out soon, says that couples who agree on the terms of their divorce can navigate the legal system in California fairly easily, even if they were married elsewhere — by also applying for a domestic partnership and then dissolving that. The problem, he says, is that in cases where the partners disagree over “parentage, money or property,” one person may be able to “take advantage of the situation” and use the legal confusion to deprive the other person of rights they would have if the partners were not the same sex.

When the history of same-sex marriage and same-sex divorce is written, it appears certain that one Massachusetts couple will feature prominently in both narratives. Hillary Smith Goodridge and Julie Wendrich Goodridge, who blazed a path to the altar, suing for the right to a same-sex marriage in Massachusetts in 2004, and then getting married that same year, are also blazing a path away from it. The Goodridges separated in 2006 and filed for divorce in February. Luckily for them, they live in a state that recognizes same-sex marriage, which will make the split legally, if not emotionally, painless.






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Augusta GA Military Divorce Attorney - TLC for Military Marriages

Augusta GA Military Divorce Attorney - TLC for Military Marriages

by Tom Banse

OLYMPIA, WA (2009-05-26) The U.S. spends billions on hardware to protect our troops in Iraq and Afghanistan. What you may not know is how many millions the Pentagon is spending to protect a softer target here at home. This year, the Army alone has budgeted 40 million dollars to strengthen the defenses of military marriages. Divorce rates in the U.S. Army and Marines jumped sharply - by more than a third - after the start of the Iraq war. Marriage retreats are a centerpiece of the military's response. KPLU's Tom Banse sat in when a McChord Air Force Base squadron learned how to preserve marriages under fire.




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Augusta GA Divorce Attorney - Mother in laws behind Indian divorces in Malaysia

Augusta GA Divorce Attorney - Mother in laws behind Indian divorces in Malaysia

Kuala Lumpur : Mother in law syndrome is the prime reason for divorce among ethnic Indian couples in Malaysia, a government study has found.
Their 'interference' also haunts the ethnic Chinese and Malays who have also cited it as the main cause behind their separation and disruption in their life, a study by the National Population and Family Development Board shows.

"Interference of in-laws is the main reason why Indians divorce. It is the top ranked reason at 30 per cent," said board's Director General Aminah Abdul Rahman.

"In the Indian community, infidelity is the second highest ranked reason for divorce at 25 per cent," she was quoted as saying by the Star online on Tuesday.

The Malaysia Community and Family Study 2004 showed that the two other factors are incompatibility at 42.3 per cent and infidelity at 12 per cent.

Infidelity is a deal breaker in Malay and Indian marriages but it appears to be tolerated among the Chinese.

"Among Malays, the second most common reason for a divorce is infidelity and a refusal to put up with polygamy (enggan dimadukan)," she said.

"According to a population survey in 2000, only a portion of the population at 0.7 per cent is divorced," she said.

The data showed that divorce is more likely to happen to those in the age group under 25 and above 40.



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Augusta GA Divorce Lawyer - Crunch not pushing divorces up

Augusta GA Divorce Lawyer - Crunch not pushing divorces up

By SUSAN FRICK CARLMAN

Wedding expenses are giving many engaged couples pause in this era of tight budgets, but for some of those who already made the trip down the aisle and have not lived happily ever after, the cost of breaking up also is leaving a mark.

Money problems often contribute to the demise of a marriage, but the pervasive economic malaise is not causing divorce proceedings to increase.

"I think the number of new cases is probably slightly down," said Robert Anderson, presiding judge of domestic relations for DuPage County. "I can't tell why that is, but perhaps that's because people are deciding that they can't afford to go it alone and will tough it out."

Marriage counselor Dan Lippmann, a 30-year veteran of marital mediations, is seeing that play out between some of the couples who come to his Naperville practice, Counseling and Wellness Innovations.

"There's a phenomenon that I've not seen before, which is that some couples will say, 'We'd probably be getting divorced now, but we probably can't sell our house or we're unemployed, so we can't afford to get a divorce,'" he said.

Originally assigned to the family courts, Anderson had a hiatus from the division when he was assigned for several years to criminal case work. When he went back to seeing estranged spouses in his courtroom last year, the landscape looked different.

"Before, we were talking about how to divide up the assets. Now, we're trying to decide how to divide up the debt. I'm seeing a number of cases where people are really in a large amount of economic distress," he said.

Although some divorced couples reportedly are filing post-decree petitions and moving back under the same roof because times are so tough, Anderson hasn't seen a great deal of that in DuPage County. But he understands how it can happen.

"If the amount of the marital assets has gone way down, it's pretty tough to make a new beginning," he said.

Historically, money is a significant stressor in distressed marriages, but Lippmann said its effects are magnified at the moment.

"I don't think it is the leading cause (of divorce), but it is right now, because there's so much stress out there right now," he said.

Just as it is appealing to look ahead to a turnaround in the collective economic disposition, for those who watch couples have second thoughts because they can't afford to split, it's tempting to hope the delay presents the possibility of reconciliation.

"I think it has some potential," Lippmann said.


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Augusta GA Divorce Attorney - Divorce lawyers find GPS useful

Augusta GA Divorce Attorney - Divorce lawyers find GPS useful

GPS, or global position system tracking has become a useful tool to catch cheating spouses, U.S. divorce lawyers and private detectives say.

"You can sit out there for four days, and nothing might happen," Paul Ciolino, a private investigator, told the Chicago Sun-Times. "If I have someone out there at $120 an hour for 14 hours a day and nothing happens, that gets expensive. But if the GPS says the car is going to a location every Thursday at 2, now you can go take a look."

Global positioning systems now cost less than $1,000 for the cheaper models. One big advantage in divorce cases is that someone who owns a vehicle can conceal a GPS device in the glove compartment or other hiding place legally.

Enrico Mirabelli, a divorce lawyer who began using GPS tracking less than a year ago, said that he now rarely obtains electronic toll-pass information because GPS is so much more detailed.

Last year, divorce lawyers were surveyed, and 88 percent reported using more information obtained electronically, including GPS and toll-pass data and records of computer use.






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Augusta GA Divorce Attorney - Program hopes to help kids get through divorce

Augusta GA Divorce Attorney - Program hopes to help kids get through divorce

by Laura Kate Zaichkin, Herald staff writer


An elementary school child whose parents were going through a divorce was asked to draw a picture of his feelings.

The student drew a handgun. Above the gun in a child's handwriting it said, "I wish I could kill my problems."

"There's a lot of stress that comes from divorce. Kids don't know how to address this appropriately," said Dell Anderson, a Pasco therapist who works with children and families. "Divorce is a lot like death. One day you're together as a family and the next day you're not there."

The gun drawing came from an unidentified student from outside the Tri-Cities who participated in a new support group called the Sandcastles Program.

Anderson hopes to get Mid-Columbia divorcing parents and their children to start looking and talking about their emotions.

Adults getting a divorce in Benton and Franklin counties are ordered by the court to attend classes to learn how to co-parent, but Anderson saw little help for their children.

"The kids are kind of left out of that picture," said Sharon Madsen, program director of 3 Rivers Wraparound, a Lutheran Community Services program that coordinates care and support services for at-risk youths in Benton and Franklin counties. "I definitely see it as a need in our community."

Anderson was researching programs in other areas of the country when his wife happened to tape Oprah when M. Gary Neuman appeared.

Neuman is the founder of the Sandcastles Program, which started in Miami-Dade County, and now is mandatory in divorce proceedings in more than a dozen jurisdictions in the U.S., according to the program's website.

Anderson was trained and licensed this spring as a Sandcastles provider and is offering the one-time classes in the Tri-Cities for different age groups beginning in June.

"Right now, I want this to be an option for families," he said.

The program's name comes from one of several exercises from the three-hour class. In the class for 6- to 10-year-olds, they're asked to build a sandcastle that has a king and queen. As the scenario unfolds, the king and queen decide to separate and the children have to decide where they're going to live.

"We just have one sandcastle. How do we fix this?" Anderson said. "Eventually it comes around to the idea, 'Let's build another sandcastle. We have another home.' "

The program also aims to safely open up communication among children and parents. Parents are invited to the last 30 minutes of class to hear what their children learned.

Anderson hopes families will leave class with a new commitment to share emotions and thoughts. Families also will leave with a list of family counselors and resources in the community. "This class provides a safe environment," Anderson said. "I want it to be a community resource."





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Augusta GA Divorce Lawyer - To win marriage equality, we need a divorce

Augusta GA Divorce Lawyer - To win marriage equality, we need a divorce

by Sherry Wolf

Sherry Wolf, author of Sexuality and Socialism: History, Politics and Theory of LGBT Liberation [1], looks at a critical question for the struggle for same-sex marriage.

POP PSYCHOLOGY has long had a term for the political marriage between LGBT people and the Democrats--it is a dysfunctional relationship.

The Democrats court the votes and money of gays and lesbians, but offer few gains and a stunning share of abuse in exchange. For those LGBT activists wooed by the Democrats, ditching the more militant strategy that got Democrats swooning in the first place for a don't-rock-the-boat approach is the price to play in this torturous display of unrequited love.

While we await the decision of the California Supreme Court on whether or not to uphold the anti-gay marriage Proposition 8 on May 26, it is worth taking stock of the political strategy activists have largely adhered to in recent decades. Collaboration with the Democrats, the so-called "party of the people," has impeded progress, not helped it.

Thirty-five years have passed since gay civil rights legislation was first proposed in Congress. Yet LGBT people remain an unprotected class of citizens by the U.S. Constitution. Whereas the denial of the rights of gays to work for the federal government, for example, was carried out with the stroke of President Eisenhower's pen in Executive Order 10450 in 1953, no such swift action has been taken to overturn decades of institutional discrimination.

Since the birth of the modern LGBT movement out of the Stonewall Riots in 1969, the Democrats before Obama controlled the White House for 12 years under Jimmy Carter and Bill Clinton. For a lot of that time, both houses of Congress were controlled by Democrats as well.

But during this time, as well as under Republican administrations, the Democrats have been opportunist at best, and hostile at worst.

Little compares to the treachery of the Clinton administration. A masterful public speaker capable of Academy Award-style performances of empathy, Clinton could famously "feel your pain," but apparently could not alleviate any of it.

Clinton came into office promising an end to draconian laws against gays in the military. He caved after four days and signed into law what is perhaps the only known order by a commander-in-chief for gays and lesbians to march back into the closet. While initially perceived as a more benign form of discrimination, his policy--known as "don't ask, don't tell, don't pursue"--has allowed for a witch-hunt of tens of thousands of military personnel and the discharge of more than 12,500 LGBT people from the military.

Nearly six years into his presidency, Bill Clinton signed Executive Order 11478 providing partial relief for lesbian and gay federal employees--not including the 3 million military personnel.

But his action left intact sodomy laws (not overturned by the Supreme Court until 2003), anti-same-sex marriage legislation (which he signed) and the military's unequal status for LGBT people (which he introduced), and it didn't take up the rights of those who are transgender (who experience the highest rates of violence, unemployment and discrimination of any sexual minority). All this exposes the severe limitations of the electoral route for winning civil rights for LGBT people.

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TODAY, THERE'S something profoundly disturbing about Barack Obama, the son of a Black man and a white woman, using the racial segregationists' call for "states' rights" when it comes to same-sex marriage.

All the more so since the California court--in initially overturning the state's gay marriage ban in May 2008 and legalizing same-sex marriage until the passage of Prop 8--cited as precedent the 62-year-old decision that overturned anti-miscegenation laws and opened the door for Obama's own parents' legal union.

If Barack Obama--one of the most popular human beings on the face of the planet--were to use his bully pulpit to push legislation (or sign an executive order) that would sweep away all institutional barriers to the freedoms and civil rights of LGBT people, it could be done.

That would be that. LGBT folks would have formal equality--as do women and Blacks--and the state would no longer be able to lend its imprimatur to antigay bigotry.

But this is not going to happen without a massive mobilization of grassroots activists in the streets and sitting in--to challenge the centers of power, including the Democrats at the helm.

Journalist Matt Taibbi, writing in the Sunday New York Times, cites a Quinnipiac poll showing that 60 percent of Americans under the age of 34 believe it is discriminatory to deny equal marriage rights--and concludes that "the gay rights movement...can now seem obsolete."

Taibbi is wrong. LGBT civil rights activists cannot operate as if we are the only ones trying to shape the debate in this country. The right wing has proven time and again that it has the money, power and seemingly limitless ability to spew noxious lies in order to get its way. Thus, opinion polls last fall showed Prop 8 was headed for defeat until the right mobilizaed a public campaign in California to discredit gay marriage as a threat to children and religious autonomy.

There is something tempting about the belief that LGBT civil rights like marriage are inevitable. After all, even John McCain's campaign adviser, Republican Steve Schmidt, has come out for gay marriage, and more and more politicians--including Barack Obama--stare at their shoes as they mumble that tired line about their belief that marriage is a union between one man and one woman. Yeah, right.

But the public opinion that is gnawing away at the politicians hasn't shifted on its own. The increasingly positive poll numbers toward sexual minorities is a magnificent expression of how ordinary peoples' actions, not those of politicians, can alter popular consciousness.

Decades of silence, hostility, equivocation and near paralysis by leading Democrats regarding LGBT civil rights is proof that protest and activism--not pleading for whittled-down legislation and waiting for politicians--is the route to progress.

Even in Illinois, the first state to overturn sodomy laws in 1961, gay politicians like Greg Harris defend tepid, second-class legislation for civil unions over gay marriage as the more "realistic" strategy.

Harris' bill, called the Illinois Religious Freedom Protection and Civil Union Act, even caves to lie that LGBT people are trying to force religious institutions to solemnize same-sex unions. No church has ever been required to officiate at ceremonies it doesn't agree with, nor will one ever be. The hand-wringing language in this legislation is unnecessarily apologetic to the right.

In California, the statewide equality group, Equality California, is hemming and hawing over whether to even push for a new pro-gay marriage ballot measure in 2010 in the event that the state Supreme Court upholds Prop 8. The organization is wary of harming the Democrats' midterm election chances, rather than demand they pass civil rights legislation.

Here, it's useful to remember the words of historian Howard Zinn in a recent speech published at SocialistWorker.org:

Where progress has been made, wherever any kind of injustice has been overturned, it's been because people acted as citizens, and not as politicians. They didn't just moan. They worked, they acted, they organized, they rioted if necessary.






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Augusta GA Divorce Attorney - Sean Penn and Wife Don’t Plan to Divorce After All

Augusta GA Divorce Attorney - Sean Penn and Wife Don’t Plan to Divorce After All

Written by: Megan Tinsley

Oscar winner Sean Penn and wife Robin Wright Penn have sought to have their divorce proceedings dismissed, according to “People.”

If there’s one couple who can give a seminar on marriage’s ups and downs/highs and lows, it’s gotta be twice-reconciling pair Mr. and Mrs. Sean Penn.

Husband Penn filed a plea Tuesday to dismiss his legal separation case from wife Robin Wright Penn of 13 years, after having another change of heart.

Los Angeles divorce attorney Lynn Soodik wasn’t involved in the proceedings; however, he shared his perspective with People. "This appears to imply that they're reconciling again," he said. "It's unlikely Sean Penn would request a dismissal for any other reason."

The first time the Mystic River actor and Wright Penn wanted out of holy matrimony was in December 2007.

However, four months later (April 2008), the Penns ultimately opted not to go forward with a divorce. Thus, a court clerk halted further hearings of the case in court at the couple’s request.






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Augusta GA Military Divorce Attorney - What led assailant to shoot his comrades?

Augusta GA Military Divorce Attorney - What led assailant to shoot his comrades?

By PAULINE ARRILLAGA – May 15, 2009

He was, in his family's eyes, the most stable guy in the world.

The kind of man who remembers to send his mom flowers on Mother's Day, even while fighting a war. A man who practiced tai chi to better himself, and fished for trout with his dad. A man who took in a little pup when his owner — a soldier, too — was called away.

He was, they say, a man who so loved his country that he joined the National Guard three years out of high school, then went active duty and made the Army his life, serving in Kosovo and Bosnia and, finally, Iraq — not once but three times.

This is the John Russell his father and mother, son and three sisters know and still love.

He is far different from the man who authorities say overpowered a comrade and took his weapon, then stalked into a military mental health clinic in Baghdad, opened fire and gunned down five of his brothers in uniform.

That John Russell stands accused now of the deadliest act of soldier-on-soldier violence in the six-year war in Iraq.

There are, for Russell's family and those of the slain, many more questions than answers about the slaughter this week at Camp Liberty, a sprawling military base at the northeast edge of Baghdad International Airport.

Was the rampage a tragic consequence of a prolonged and poorly managed war, where redeployments are the norm, combat stress a growing concern and suicides in the ranks more common? Did Russell just snap somehow, or did someone — or something — push him over the edge? Was he, as his father has said, broken in some way?

The military has released few details as its investigation continues, leaving little to help explain how a 44-year-old career military man could go from "stable" to homicidal just weeks before he was to head back home. The only clues as to what happened, and why, are fragmented pieces of a life now in ruins.

"I love my brother," Russell's sister, Jennifer Young, told The Associated Press this week. "He is a loving, wonderful person and he would never hurt anyone when he was in his right mind. They train them to kill. And when they get in that mental state, we can only imagine."

Said his father, Wilburn: "We thought he had his feet firmly on the ground."

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He grew up in the Red River Valley of Texas near a tiny town called Tom Bean, 60 miles north of Dallas near the Oklahoma border. In the late '80s, when Russell attended Tom Bean High, all of 926 souls lived in the hamlet, studded with modest farm houses, lakes and prairies where folks hunt for quail and wild boar. On the high school Web site, stock show results are listed alongside the all-district basketball selections.

Russell's dad worked for Texas Instruments as a government contractor; his mom was a secretary there. The two celebrated their 50th wedding anniversary just last month with a trout fishing trip to Broken Bow Lake, where Wilburn used to take his son.

When Russell was a kid, the family was like any other. They went camping and boating. He enjoyed playing cards and football. But high school wasn't easy for the boy, who, according to his father, was dyslexic. He graduated, but couldn't find a good paying job. He worked maintenance here and there, while serving part-time for seven years in the Army National Guard.

Then, in 1994, Russell decided to make the military his career and turned active duty.

"He matured," his father said. "He didn't talk much about details, but he talked about the countries, the people he met."

First came a stint in Serbia, then Bosnia and Herzegovina. When the United States invaded Iraq in March 2003, Russell, a communications specialist with the 54th Engineer Battalion, was among the first wave of soldiers sent in.

He arrived for his first one-year tour of duty that April, according to excerpts of his military record. He did a second, one-year tour starting in November 2005, and was sent back a third time almost a year ago.

His father worried for him, but Russell tried to ease his fears.

"He said, `Dad, these people in Iraq are just like you and I. They want freedom. They want to be left alone. They want to be able to do their thing without suppression or getting hauled off ... They're human beings.'"

The elder Russell calls his son "the kind of guy you would be proud of. A chest full of ribbons."

Indeed, Russell's past reveals little that would hint at the onslaught of violence that erupted Monday in Baghdad.

In his 20s, Russell was charged with misdemeanor trespassing for entering an uninhabited structure, according to police records. He spent 17 days in jail and paid a $200 fine.

There was an ugly divorce from his first wife, Denise, who at one point accused Russell of hitting her mother on the shoulders in a confrontation over the couple's son, then 2-years-old. In 1993, a month after the divorce decree was issued, Russell was charged with misdemeanor assault by threats, but the matter was later dropped, court records show.

All that was long past, though. In recent months, Russell seemed to be looking ahead to the future.

He was remarried to a German woman, and they lived together in Bamberg, Germany, where Russell was stationed for the last decade. She recently obtained her American citizenship, his family said, and the couple purchased a brand-new, two-story home in Sherman, not far from the farmhouse where Russell was raised.

Russell's relatives said he planned on returning to Texas for good after he retired in a few years, to live in the house — furnished with Swedish imports — in a neighborhood called Country Ridge Estates.

And he had already planned a visit home in July, after his latest tour of duty was up.

The soldier's son, John Russell II, received an e-mail from his dad on April 25, the day after his 20th birthday.

"He told me happy birthday and that he loved me and couldn't wait to come down in July and see everybody and visit with the family," the young man said. "Normal stuff."

On Mother's Day, came the flowers.

Then, the next day, five men were dead and Sgt. John M. Russell stood accused of killing them.

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Just what happened between his final e-mails to family and the incident at Camp Liberty remains unclear.

The one thing experts understand is that soldiers with repeated deployments are more susceptible to post-traumatic stress disorder and related mental health problems, such as depression.

"The more times you put someone in a situation where they will be traumatized, the greater likelihood that you create severe symptoms," said Barbara Romberg, a clinical psychologist in Washington, D.C., who four years ago launched a nonprofit effort to provide counseling services to troops returning from Iraq and Afghanistan.

"They'll talk about the first deployment as, `Whew. Made it through that.' The next one is, `I can't believe I made it through that one.' By the third, they really feel they're pushing their luck, that they're not going to make it. That strain alone starts to eat away and create some dark and morbid thoughts."

Russell's sister, Jennifer, said her brother sought help in Germany after he began having nightmares following his second tour of duty. "They saw him four times, sent him home and sent him back to Iraq," she said.

Shelley MacDermid Wadsworth directs the Military Family Research Institute at Purdue University and served as co-chair of the Department of Defense Task Force on Mental Health from 2006 to 2007. She agreed that mental health problems are more prevalent in soldiers with multiple deployments. Add to that concerns about family and money, the long work days, lack of sleep and having to be constantly vigilant — and "all of those things can be very troubling."

Wilburn Russell, 73, said in an interview with Sherman television station KXII that he had major stomach surgery in February, that his grandson was recently diagnosed with cysts on his liver and his daughter-in-law's father was dying of cancer.

"All these things weigh on you," the elder Russell said, adding that his son was also deeply in debt, having to pay some $1,500 each month on the house in Texas. "You never know what is gonna trigger it."

The family also points to something else. They said that earlier this month, Russell e-mailed his wife in Germany, telling her some officers had threatened him during what he called the two worst days of his life.

"His life was over as far as he was concerned," said Wilburn Russell, who didn't know whether his son was being disciplined or facing a discharge. "They steered him into this stress center, and they did the worst they could to him. They broke him."

In Baghdad, Maj. Gen. David Perkins told reporters that Russell was ordered to the mental health clinic by his superiors, presumably because of concern over his emotional state. Russell's weapon also was taken from him, a serious measure in a war zone.

A Pentagon official said that Russell had been escorted to the clinic, but once inside argued with the staff and was asked to leave. After he drove away, Russell apparently seized his escort's weapon, returned to the clinic and opened fire, the official said on condition of anonymity because the investigation is ongoing.

Russell's father wonders if his son snapped under questioning by counselors, or feared that his career was over.

"These guys in the stress center were probably younger than him ... and here they are evaluating him and harassing him. You take that stuff personally. He couldn't cope," he said. "The military was his identity. The military turned against him."

The stigma attached to getting psychiatric help is especially burdensome for soldiers who are trained to be tough, not to talk about feelings, MacDermid Wadsworth said. There is also a very real concern among the troops that seeking treatment could, in fact, derail careers in an organization where rank is everything.

The Army has taken steps to tell soldiers — from new privates to veteran sergeant majors — that it is OK to pursue counseling and that doing so is in no way a detriment to future promotions, said Lt. Gen. Kenneth W. Hunzeker, commanding general of V Corps in Heidelberg, Germany, which Russell's unit is part of.

"Clearly," Hunzeker said, "it is helping us to knock down this stigma."

Still, MacDermid Wadsworth, soldiers "worry very much about anything that might be perceived as a blemish on their record."

"If you get labeled or judged as someone who may be a security risk, then you're not going to get promoted and you're going to have to leave the career that you might love very much.

"It'll take a lot more examination to try to understand why this particular person on this particular day did this thing," she said. "The sad and ironic thing is that people did realize there was a risk, and they took action. But it wasn't enough."

Army Pfc. Michael Yates of Federalsburg, Md., met Russell shortly before the shootings. The 19-year-old soldier had gone to the stress clinic voluntarily after returning to Iraq from an April visit home. In a phone call, he told his mom about meeting a sergeant — Russell — who was clearly resentful of the Army after three tours.

"`Man, this guy's got issues,'" Yates' mother, Shawna Machlinski, remembers him saying.

On Monday, fatefully, Yates was inside the clinic when Russell returned.

This week, as Machlinski got word of her son's death, John Russell's mother learned of her son's arrest; a friend of her daughter-in-law called to tell the family what had happened.

"All day, I thought, `That's the wrong John Russell,'" 71-year-old Elizabeth Russell said. "That's not our John."

Russell remains in the custody of military police at Camp Liberty, facing charges of murder and aggravated assault.





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